I spoke with three (possibly more) of my accountability partners today and I couldn’t do anything, but smile.
I can tell they genuinely care about making their word bond to the agreements we’ve made with one another. Their follow-ups, even without a consistent follow-up from me means a lot. I’m not perfect. Sometimes, I slack off in my responsibility to them. What I’ve learned is that trading places is healthy.
In friendships, it’s important for friends to understand that there’s going to be a time when you’re not the focus of the relationship.
Although, both partners have a duty towards one another, there’s going to come a time when one of the partners needs the other more. If the two don’t understand that, the ship will sink. I think my partners understand and actually appreciate the relationship we’re building.
I have multiple accountability partners because people are in your life for different reasons. I’ve learned to appreciate that everyone can’t help me the way that the next can. It’s not to say that any of my accountability partners are greater than the other. It’s to show that I am able to accept who I am and who they are. Their gifts are unraveling before my eyes and everyday I learn to appreciate them more and more. They’re not my friends. They’re my accountability partners, my family and we’re developing a beautiful bond.
Earlier, I mentioned that I possibly spoken with more than three partners because I think I’ve unofficially acquired more. What a gift! It’s very humbling that anyone would trust me to help them in life and I am thankful for anyone who is willing to help me.
To any of my accountability partners: I apologize when I’m not serving you in the best way that I can. I thank you for serving me when I’m not my best. I thank you for understanding and never complaining. I thank you for allowing me to serve you when all is well with me. I thank you for still trusting in me when I’m sometimes not myself. I thank you for allowing me to say, ‘if I’m not able to give my best, it’s better to remove myself’. Your understanding of me saying no or taking a momentary break means everything. Last, I thank you for showing me your growth areas, strengths, and vulnerabilities. You’re helping me transform and I bear witness to the power of having accountability partners.
I think that’s such a powerful quote. Lets parse words, according to dictionary.com.
- Use: employed for a purpose; utilized
- Misuse: to treat badly or abusively
- Abuse: to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way
My accountability partners serve in my life for a purpose. They’re not employed, but I like to think of them as freelancers (smile) who are independently serving me and others in their walk of life. I am so thankful to have them on my journey. I pray that we “use” with a purpose, but never “misuse” or “abuse”.
Who’s responsible for you?
- Ultimately you are, but we can’t do anything alone in life. Yes, we have The Most High, but there’s a god in each of us. So there’s power in connecting with your brothers and sisters to help bring the best of you out.
- After being dutiful to yourself and your husband/wife (if you’re married), you have a duty to your community. When you notice someone is in need, you shall not turn away. You shall extend a hand and do the best you can to help someone. When you misuse and abuse others, you’re essentially inflicting yourself and exposing who you really are.
We must all be accountability partners to one another. It’s one way to implement self-improvement, which is the basis of community development as taught by The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan.
Interact With Us
Do you have an accountability partner? If not, I encourage you to get at least two. If you have an accountability partner, tell us about your experience.