In 2018, take care of you!

Peaceful New Year!

How many years have you spent writing new year resolutions, but not actually making new year resolutions? This year, I encourage us to have a made up mind. As The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan teaches, “Beloved, there is nothing more powerful than a made-up mind. Don’t say, “I’ll do it tomorrow.” Don’t tell me about “tomorrow.” Don’t tell me about tomorrow, because you know nothing about tomorrow. All that you have is this moment in time. Make up your mind, now!”

Read “Ditch the usual New Years resolution: Do these 5 things instead” by Ebboni X Savory to help you implement achievable practices.

How full is your cup?

In 2017, I spent a lot of time pouring into others. You’re probably thinking what’s wrong with that? Nothing, unless you’re doing that more than you’re filling your cup. In 2017, I poured into everyone’s cup before mine was filled. This year, I’m only pouring if my cup is overflowing. I’m not saying it’ll be easy, but it’s important for me to master the need to do for self first.

The goal is to have an overflowing cup before you give.

Clean and detox

  1. Clean your environment: Once you make your mind up, it’s important to thoroughly clean your space (your home, your car, etc.) before clearing your mind. Your mind feeds off what it sees. When you’re living in a cluttered space, it’s hard for your mind to focus, especially when there are so many visuals in sight.
  2. Fast/detox: Controlling your stomach will help release chemicals that are in your body and it will help prepare your mind for focus and quiet time. What you eat also has a huge affect on what you think. Eat to think. Eat to live. Last, watch what you intake once you decide to break the fast. Don’t allow your time of fasting to go to waste.
  3. Reflect on your strengths and growth areas. Affirm self <click to read me). As you accept the process of growing, those who no longer serve you, will automatically be removed from your life.
  4. Live for you. Put yourself in a confined space <click to read me).

 

It’s easier to say what we can do, but it’s harder to put everything in practice. I simply advise that you (that we) just get started doing whatever we want. “[The Honorable Elijah Muhammad] said when people wrote him about their bad habits, “How can I stop?” he said, “Just stop.” Why would he say something like that? There’s no big, long drawn-out thing, to break a habit. You have to develop the Will to stop, and then stop… You can stop any bad habit once you make up your mind!” -The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan, The Restrictive Law of Islam Is Our Success, page 61

Therefore, if all that’s required of us is to stop when we want to break a bad habit, then if we want to acquire a habit, it would be that we just start.

Starting is the hard part. The reason why you started is what helps with consistency.

What do you envision and who will hold you responsible?

In order for me to ensure I’m ready to accept the challenge, I’ve worked on vision boards that will keep me focused throughout each day. We as a people have zero limits. However, it’s important for us to set boundaries. Boundaries do not mean you’re limited, just as loving someone with conditions does not mean you don’t truly love them. We even have to love ourselves with conditions. When I’m living other than self in a way that is not pleasing to Allah (God), I can’t say that I love the person I am portraying. I do love myself enough to accept my own and be myself and you can’t do that without conditions. Loving with conditions shows your love for others; it’s called accepting responsibility in the form of being accountable. Do you have an accountability partner? <click to read me)

The best accountability partner is Allah (God). He will stop you in your tracks when you steer off on the wrong path. It’s just that we have to be clear to receive His Guidance and instructions. The second best accountability partner is yourself. We have to learn to hold ourselves accountable. Oftentimes, we want to hold everyone around us to a standard, but do we hold ourselves up to the same or even better because after all we are the ones living our own lives.

So this year hold yourself accountable, if you choose to work on your vision board, remember:

If it’s not in your vision, don’t allow yes to be a part of your decision.

Don’t make impromptu decisions. Learn how to say no. More importantly, learn how to say no without an explanation.

So in 2018, instead of making a list of what I plan to do, I’m focused on ensuring that the priority is taking care of me. When you take care of self, your health and wellness will increase and you’ll be ready to give to others.

Title 2018

Every year deserves a title. I title my year based on the previous year and what I know is coming. Last year was the year of fruition. I planted a lot of seeds for self and gave birth to some, but mostly for others. This year the seeds that I planted for myself will be manifested, but in order to make that happen, I have to be firmly rooted. Can you guess what the title of this year is?

When thinking about your title, reflect on what 2018 equals.

2+1=3

3+8=11

1+1= 2

2 = you define what “2” means for you

Who has approval over your life?

This year don’t wait for the approval of others. Don’t ask for the thoughts of others, unless it’s sincerely someone you trust. However, I encourage that you don’t allow the total of number you trust while you’re in the womb to exceed more than three people. You already have 1) Allah, (God), 2) you, 3) husband/wife, so why would you want the thought of more than this group of people who are in your corner to affect your actions?

Stop asking the blind to proofread your vision.

For me, 2018 is the year of Grounding. I will be firmly grounded in Allah (God), The Teachings of The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad under The Guidance of The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan. I will be firmly grounded in self, so that I can receive and fulfill all of what Allah (God) has for me. This will allow me to give to others, as I desire in a controlled way. What will you be grounded in and what is the title that you have for 2018?

Self-care may sound simple, but sometimes we make more time for others more than ourselves. Remember to take care of you first. It’s not a simple task. In fact, it’s one of the most important duties.


I began with “peaceful new year” because you don’t know how a person left 2017. I know I’m not the only one who experienced trial and error, but I know there are folks who haven’t properly healed yet. Therefore, the word “peaceful” may uplift someone, while the word “happy” may remind someone of their condition that they’re not necessarily “happy” with. May we reflect on previous years for great success and receive all of the blessings Allah (God) has for us.

It is not just a new year. We must acknowledge one of our brothers on this day. Click here to remember Oscar Grant.

It is not just a new year. We must acknowledge one of our brothers, Oscar Grant.

He was 22 years old.
Photo credits: directly from Fruitvale Station

If you have not seen Fruitvale Station, I highly encourage you to watch this film of a real-life catastrophe based on the last 24 hours of 22-year young Oscar Grant, who was shot by a white San Francisco transit police officer on New Year’s Day of 2009. This was the first time I can recall feeling a growing pain in my heart due to the fact of losing brothers and sisters because of police brutality. 

Oscar Grant was the spark of me wanting to be an activist. I couldn’t believe this happened and I will never forget the moment, when I watched this movie in December of 2013… Fruitvale Station was one of the steps towards changing my life forever. Why? Because I want to be a part of the change and I know a part of that is informing people of Oscar’s story.

If it was 2013 and I was just finding out about what happened to our Brother in 2009, I knew something was absolutely wrong with this picture. Why did it take a movie for me to learn about our Brother? And why wasn’t this movie in theaters? I wanted answers. Most importantly, I knew I wasn’t going to be a part of the silence or the numbness that some of us have. 

Read my poem “I Can’t Breathe. where I mention Wanda Johnson, the mother of Oscar Grant. Watch the trailer of Fruitvale Station here and if you have Netflix, watch it for free there.

Every year, I think about Oscar Grant. I think about Wanda Johnson, as well because her birthday is on December 31. Not only does she think about what happened to her son every year, but I’m sure a birthday for her will never be the same. In addition, Oscar Grant was a father of Tatiana Grant. That hurts my heart… The bigger problem is we’ve seen this happened time and time again… So when you’re thinking about this year, be thankful for having another moment on Earth. Last, spread the word to inform others because it’s important that we don’t allow their death to be in vain.

Remember, the year is what you create. It may not be a “happy” year, but we can definitely create a “peaceful” one.

Peaceful year to you, your family, friends, and the environment you create!

In close, I would like us to reflect on The Minister’s words:

In The Name of Allah, The Beneficent, The Merciful.

The first day of the New Year should be a day of reflection, a day of prayer, a day of praise and thanks that we were blessed to make it through the last year, because there are so many of those that we know, those that we love, who started the New Year with us last year, but did not know that it would be the beginning of their last year on this Earth. So when we are fortunate to be alive to see an old year go out, and a new year comes in, for me, that time should be spent reflecting and thanking God for those who touched our lives and sweetened our own presence on this Earth, but are no longer present with us.

-The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan,

Our Demonstration of Love for The New Year

Peaceful New Year!

Welcome to 2017. I am so excited and thankful to have another opportunity to grow into the person God intends for me to be. That’s what I think of throughout the year: ‘how can I be better? How can I progress versus just displaying potential?

Not better in the sense of, “it’s a new year, new me & I’m on my new ish!” I’m not discouraging anyone from saying this, I just think it’s burned out. 

Yes, it’s correct when I say I’m not going to be the same person as I was in 2016. I’m not even the same person as I was yesterday or any other day. Thanks to Allah for making all things new. However, this can only be true when you put the work in before the actual deadline. If you waited until today to start your list of trillions of resolutions, lets just be realistic and admit that all of them most likely won’t be accomplished. This is NOT me being negative. This is honesty. Some of us procrastinate up until the day before the big event. Please help me understand the logic in this? Okay, I’m sometimes this person, but it’s not fair to you. You should give yourself the best. The best can’t happen without proper care and proper care deserves preparation & time.

During Q4 of 2016, I planned my life for 2017. I literally saw and am seeing a glimpse of what this year has in store for me. Not just the visuals, but what it actually feels like. With every mistake I made, I planted a seed of change in my garden (my mind). 

Painting credits: Maleeka Holden, @leekdaruler on Instagram
Painting credits: Maleeka Holden, @leekdaruler on Instagram

Now, every seed that I’ve planted will be manifested because I am properly going to continue to nurture the seeds that I’ve planted.

I’ve already begun to apply the many lessons I’ve learned, but the ground work started last year so that I can manifest my short, but fulfilling list of change and goals. This doesn’t mean I’m “claiming” to leave everything behind. I know I’m going to make more mistakes. However, now I can see my destiny a little more clearer than I could before.

I believe pain can be used for a greater good. My pain allowed me to relearn what’s in my heart.

This is why I began with “peaceful new year” because you don’t know how a person left 2016. I know I’m not the only one who experienced trial and error, but I know there are folks who haven’t properly healed yet. Therefore, the word “peaceful” may uplift someone, while the word “happy” may remind someone of their condition that they’re not necessarily “happy” with.

In the near future, I’ll share my journey of healing with hopes that they serve as tips that you can implement or share with a loved one. If you have any submissions or want to be a featured writer to help others on their journey, please feel free to visit our Share Your Story page.

Thank you for reading my first blog post. It is not just a new year. We must acknowledge one of our brothers on this day. Please click here for the next post.