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Who is responsible for you?

I spoke with three (possibly more) of my accountability partners today and I couldn’t do anything, but smile.

I can tell they genuinely care about making their word bond to the agreements we’ve made with one another. Their follow-ups, even without a consistent follow-up from me means a lot. I’m not perfect. Sometimes, I slack off in my responsibility to them. What I’ve learned is that trading places is healthy.

In friendships, it’s important for friends to understand that there’s going to be a time when you’re not the focus of the relationship.

Although, both partners have a duty towards one another, there’s going to come a time when one of the partners needs the other more. If the two don’t understand that, the ship will sink. I think my partners understand and actually appreciate the relationship we’re building.

I have multiple accountability partners because people are in your life for different reasons. I’ve learned to appreciate that everyone can’t help me the way that the next can. It’s not to say that any of my accountability partners are greater than the other. It’s to show that I am able to accept who I am and who they are. Their gifts are unraveling before my eyes and everyday I learn to appreciate them more and more. They’re not my friends. They’re my accountability partners, my family and we’re developing a beautiful bond.

Earlier, I mentioned that I possibly spoken with more than three partners because I think I’ve unofficially acquired more. What a gift! It’s very humbling that anyone would trust me to help them in life and I am thankful for anyone who is willing to help me.

To any of my accountability partners: I apologize when I’m not serving you in the best way that I can. I thank you for serving me when I’m not my best. I thank you for understanding and never complaining. I thank you for allowing me to serve you when all is well with me. I thank you for still trusting in me when I’m sometimes not myself. I thank you for allowing me to say, ‘if I’m not able to give my best, it’s better to remove myself’. Your understanding of me saying no or taking a momentary break means everything. Last, I thank you for showing me your growth areas, strengths, and vulnerabilities. You’re helping me transform and I bear witness to the power of having accountability partners.

Friends are meant to be used, not misused or abused. -Antonio Monix
“Friends are meant to be Used, not misUsed or AbUsed.”

I think that’s such a powerful quote. Lets parse words, according to

  • Use: employed for a purpose; utilized
  • Misuse: to treat badly or abusively
  • Abuse: to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way

My accountability partners serve in my life for a purpose. They’re not employed, but I like to think of them as freelancers (smile) who are independently serving me and others in their walk of life. I am so thankful to have them on my journey. I pray that we “use” with a purpose, but never “misuse” or “abuse”.

Who’s responsible for you?

  • Ultimately you are, but we can’t do anything alone in life. Yes, we have The Most High, but there’s a god in each of us. So there’s power in connecting with your brothers and sisters to help bring the best of you out.
  • After being dutiful to yourself and your husband/wife (if you’re married), you have a duty to your community. When you notice someone is in need, you shall not turn away. You shall extend a hand and do the best you can to help someone. When you misuse and abuse others, you’re essentially inflicting yourself and exposing who you really are.

We must all be accountability partners to one another. It’s one way to implement self-improvement, which is the basis of community development as taught by The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan.

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Do you have an accountability partner? If not, I encourage you to get at least two. If you have an accountability partner, tell us about your experience.  

6 comments found

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    Lady J

    Well put together. Thanks for the knowledge.

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    Thank you for reading and for taking the time to leave a comment.

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    Great Read Makes One Be Mindful Of The Company They Keep

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    Terrika Muhammad (Queen T)

    I love the idea of an accountability partner, right before I was headed to prayer. I was reflecting on a conversation I just had with my mom about me saying her that I have to rise above my emotions constantly letting no one bump me off my promise to God and myself . And I was thinking , I needed that reminder from someone because alone , it’s sometimes hard to remember those sorts of things ya know? So from reading this , I just may have to get me one of those !

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    Toni Mono Flow

    Man . a good accountability partner can really help you not cheat yourself . And you can cheat yourself by OverUsing your Self or UnderUsing your Self and a friend who is trusted with this type of knowledge can help you support you heavily.

    I did a great Yoga session Wednesday in which we sat back to back with a partner n one part of the session one partner became the supporter n the other the supported but even the support had to be mindful of supporting self first so they could be supportive of the supported one.

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